“The uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each
individual and gives a meaning to his existence has a bearing on creative work
as much as it does on human love.” Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.
It is strange and ironic that I have not encountered Viktor
Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning
until this (late) period in my life since it is the search for meaning I have
struggled with so mightily throughout my life.
I struggled in high school because I could not see the meaning
in the algebra, English, history, biology, and assorted other classes that I
was forced to take. At that time I worked in a nursing home and saw the discarded
old whose prime and usefulness had seemed to have passed. I could not see the
meaning in their lives as they wound down often in dementia, loneliness, and despair.
Also at this same time I saw my father’s despair as he came
home each day from work tired and worn, a little bit more taken out of him, a
little less life to give. What meaning was there for his life? Was it my fate
to live the same meaningless life? (A few years later he seemed to find relief
in the cancer that would mercifully end his life.)
After graduating from high school I began an adventure to
find such meaning in my life. I hitchhiked and traveled to far off places such
as Hawaii and Mexico in search of meaning. Later in work and college I searched
for a meaning for my life—at times finding such meaning and at other times
losing it.
My inability to firmly grasp and retain the meaning of my life
was dependent on my desires for love and money, on my insecurities and
psychosis, and on a world that does not reward the nebulous and intangible. “Make
a living” not “Make meaning” is the motto of our society.
Frankl writes about two men who had given up on life in the
Nazi concentration camp and talked of committing suicide. Both men gave the
typical argument that they had nothing left to expect from life. But Frankl
turned the question of expectation on its head and asking the men what life
expected from them. It turned out that each man had something that life
expected of them—one had a daughter living in the United States who was waiting
for him and the other man begun a series of books that needed to be finished.
“His work could not be done by anyone else, any more than
another person could ever take the place of the father in his child’s
affections.”
Each of us has a unique and singular mission, a meaning that
life expects of us. Life has presented you with a set of circumstances,
obstacles, and experiences that make you the unique person that you are. Even
closely knit twins have unique experiences which distinguish them from each other.
Why did life give you the life it gave you? What is life expecting from you?
My own life has given me the unique perspective that I call “The
Coherent Life” consisting of the six values of Confidence, Happiness, Love,
Peace, Passion, and Abundance. My purpose, the meaning that life expects of me
is to share this philosophy with you. My hope is that you will find meaning in
your life through my writings.
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